Wednesday, July 20, 2005

Marriage Fraud Descends to New Lows

Oh, how we love to believe in "True Love." It's why we are so insanely generous with fiance and spousal visas, as well as "legalize" illegal aliens who wed citizens. But an Iraqi with residence permission in Norway has come up with a bizarre twist on marriage fraud to smuggle in his mother and two younger siblings.

As soon as he gained refugee status, he applied for "family reunification" for his "wife" and her two children "from a previous marriage."

It took Norwegian authorities several years to become suspicious of of the man and his much-older "wife." DNA tests revealed that the "wife" was actually the applicant's mother and those two children "from a previous marriage" were actually the applicant's siblings.

These fraudsters face two years in prison, followed by deportation, but Aftenposten did not indicate whether the siblings will also be deported as part of the fraud.

It high time we barred immigration-law violators from any "change of status" application -- including marriage. After all, if it really is a love match, the illegal alien can apply to their own country for their citizen-spouse's entry. Bring in a "fiancee?" Let the couple marry and live together in the mail-order bride's country for a few years before allowing spousal entry.

18 Comments:

Blogger stinkbug said...

What should one do if you know of someone who is planning to arrange a fraudulent marriage to stay in the US permenantly? Is just admitting this an offense, and if so, whom do you inform of the incident? Any suggestions?

9:46 AM  
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Blogger barb said...

what should you do if you think that your husband only married you for his immagration? How and where do you report this what can I do to stop him and have him deported?

2:16 PM  
Blogger ibu guru said...

ICE (formerly INS) has a hotline to report fraud. Go to the ICE website and get the phone number. I've made a couple of reports myself and know they do follow up reports.

As for a spouse you suspect of fraud, withdraw any application for a green card. If you do not withdraw the application and report your suspicions, you become an accomplice to fraud. Do you want to go to jail for this bum who deceived you (and will likely dump you as soon as the legal residency comes through)?

9:19 PM  
Blogger online said...

The invisible national security threat is an open back door into the USA is not through US Borders but through immigration marriage fraud by petitioned fiancées who take advantage, use, and deceive innocent US citizens for immigration benefits. These parasites use US Immigration Laws and the Judiciary System to claim domestic violence against their petitioning US Citizen spouses so that in turn these immigrants can self-petition for Permanent Residence. The VAWA (Violence Against Women Act), HR3083 and Battered Immigrant Women Protection Act of 2000 (BIWPA) are misused by fraudulent and deceiving applicants who were never abused by their US Citizen spouses but know of or are advised by corrupt immigration attorneys, shelters and agencies of one of many loopholes in US Immigration Law. Their own Children are victimized because they are used as a bribery tool for extortion and ransom for these greencard hungry crooks.

In turn, the victims, who are non-abusive, law abiding and innocent US citizens, of this immigration marriage fraud are labeled as abusers and their clean records shattered because of the allegation. Why do innocent US Citizens have to suffer?

America uses higher fences on US Borders using HR6061 and close their eyes on the trojan horses and these fiancées who married for immigration benefits and defrauded the US Government to enter the USA through immigration marriage fraud. This is an open door to terrorists, organized crime, and visa spouses claiming false abuse charges to get a greencard, welfare, and free help from the US Government.

That is the NEW NATIONAL SECURITY THREAT; the open backdoor to the USA that Minute Men and the US National Guard cannot secure.....Perimeter Wide OPEN! Please STOP this from happening and create a more thorough act and a revised US Immigration Law that can penetrate all the loopholes of this type of immigration marriage fraud that cripples and victimizes innocent United States Citizens who's only intention was falling in love with a human being from another country yet that foreigner fell in love with a chance to get a greencard.

We as US Citizens should be against criminal illegal immigrants and corrupt attorneys who use these moral acts unjustly to victimize US Citizens and take advantage of the US Government for the benefit of aiding immigrant applicants who abuse and defraud the use of VAWA and other loopholes of US Immigration. Law enforcement, Corrupt Immigration Law Firms and the US Judiciary System should not be one-sided to aid unverified victims of domestic violence or abuse when they are the scam artists immigrants or corrupt illegal aliens who are not Battered, Abused, or Trafficked but abuse and deceive the US Immigration Law and VAWA to do harm upon our nation and its innocent, law abiding, peaceful US Citizens just for Permanent Residency and soon to petition their deceptive and corrupt families and so on like a domino effect.

STOP THIS CORRUPTION NOW!

11:42 AM  
Blogger MajKarma said...

I hear much about women being the victims, but I am here to tell you "Men" too are victims and in my case I am the victim of Green Card Marriage Fraud, which is the most horrible experience of my life that has not only destroyed everything I worked to accomplish for almost 4 years, but has it has ripping my heart and soul out, and left me feeling like thrown away piece of trash.

In early Sept 2002 I saw the photo of a beautiful Byelorussian woman I later learned was Widow, on Match.com named Oksana. I sent her a “Wink” and a week later she responded that she was coming here to California soon to visit friends on a B-2 Tourist Visa. I later found out it was not Oksana I was communicating with, but her girlfriend and orchestrator of their plan "Svetlana Karebo aka Svetlana Sax". I was later told that I was one of 20 dates Sveta had arranged Okasna, but that it was Sveta's idea, not hers, that she had a son waiting for her in Belarus where she intended to return.

Anyway, I met then Oksana in early Oct 2002.. I picked her up with flowers in tow at Sveta’s brothers apartment (Sergey Karebo..he works for ESRI, Redlands Ca) took her to dinner and although she spoke next to no English, I was smitten, the moment I touched her hand...I remember the very moment I began to love her. Days and a few weeks went by, we saw each other and talked using the translator on my computer. She told me she loved me, wanted to be with me, to marry me and build a life with me, but I had to make up my mind because otherwise, she had to go with friends to Colorado. I have never had a Visa or been out of the USA and certainly new nothing about the immigration process. All I knew was that I believe God had sent her to me and that after all the loss and hurt in my life, that I was being given a chance to start a new life with a wonderful woman like no other I had ever seen or been with.

She moved in with me in late October 2002 and we began the grueling immigration process…I did all the documents, beginning with getting her Visa extended and in May 2003 we were married. I was not and am not a rich man…money was tight but I managed to start giving her money ($3-400 a month) to send home for her parents, who were taking care of her son while we went through the process of getting her legal and bringing her son her to join us in our new life together. Gifts for friends and family, money to girlfriends in trouble back home, phone bills, clothes, things, going to parties at her friends from Belarus…all this and more and more and more I did for her and while I did complain from time to time because it was all on me and she could not work, I did because I loved her and felt I owed her everything I could do because she had chosen me, to be with me while her son waited for us in Belarus. I was her husband…my life’s blood is hers…even now a part of me feels that.

So time passed and during the 3.3 years that we were married I took her to school to learn English, paid for driving lessons to learn to drive and bought her a car, helped her get her Real Estate License, establish credit in her own name and so many other things that a husband should do for his wife…whatever she wanted and needed, not least of this being doing all the immigration documents, fees and all the things a Sponsor must do to get his wife and her son legal in the USA, including paying for her to go home to visit, even though I went further and further into debt and often felt used and taken advantage of like some kind of mule she was riding up the hill. This was okay, I only complained a little..it is how it is for us men..our women want and need and Must Have..as mine put it and making sure she got what made her happy was more important than my having things like clothes and finishing getting my teeth fixed.. I wanted her to have better and to be proud of me and to be her White Knight. Never doubt me when I say how I grew to love her more and more. It blinded me to her use and abuse…it blinded me to her going to Vegas with her girlfriends and the phone calls that included to Russian men she said were just friends. She said she loved me and would never betray me and I thought everything would get better when her son got here.

So finally in Nov 2005, we got her son approved and she went to get him in December. I spent Christmas alone but felt good knowing my wife and son would soon be with me and we would get on with our lives. They arrived the 1st of January 2006. The boy was shy I thought and this being a new environment with a new home and stepfather, I tried to spoil him and draw him close. He wanted computer, I got it for him, he wanted and IPod, I got it for me..his own room was waiting..I even bought him a really nice bike he rode maybe 10 times. Enrolled him in school and was there as a father should be when another boy stole his IPod and I got it back for him. I have a daughter from a previous marriage..she too was thrilled thinking she would have a brother and I tried taking us to do fun stuff like going to ride Go Carts and Skating and Bowling, but the boy was always distant, would never really join in…he mostly wanted to hid in his room on the compuer..his My Space. But I accepted this and that with time he would and we all would find our way. I didn’t know it then but he knew what his mother was planning.

Summer School came and because there was no bus, I picked him up everyday..him and his new friends. Money was tight but we were making it and I felt everything was going to be alright with time. Yes it bothered me he wouldn’t talk much to me and the last day of Summer School was no different..I thought.

In late June 2006 we went for our 2 year interview at BCIS to remove the conditions to/for her Permanent Green Card. It was a great day, we told each other we loved each other and would stick together through thick or thin and make our lives work. If there was anything wrong, she didn’t say so and certainly said nothing at the interview, which we got through with no problems.. we make a great couple..at least I thought so.

On August 4, 2006, I picked the Boy up from his last day of Summer School, dropped him off and went to work. Later, I came home from work about 8:30pm. Aksana (we changed her name from Oksana to Aksana) had dinner ready, we ate and everything seemed to be fine. The boy even ate with us, although he often ate earlier or wanted to eat in his room and watch TV..I had even gotten him the Sports Channels because he’s such a sports fan.

Aksana did seem in a hurry to get done with dinner..I told her, hold on Honey, I am not done yet. Anyway, we finished, she did the dishes and said, let’s go to bed and watch a movie. I had been having a serious tooth ache and between the pain pills and being tired from work, it sounded like a good idea. I don’t remember what we watched, I fell asleep within minutes.

Then about 2am I woke up to see she was up. I asked “What’s wrong honey..said, I have a stomache ache..I asked do you want me to get something for you..my tooth hurts too and I will get us both something..she said no and I layed back down. A few moments later she was their on the edge of the bed with a glass of water…she said here. And told me they ware sleeping pills to help me sleep. I am not sure where she got them, I suspect Sveta gave them to her to give to me. My last words were “Thank you baby for being so sweet to me” and I fell back to sleep.

In the morning I woke, she was not there but I didn’t think anything of it until I went in the living room and saw stuff from our SUV on the floor..an SUV she talked me into buying a few months before and which I traded our car in for. We put it in her name to further establish her credit..I thought.

Anyway, suddenly I am calling out Aksana..Aksana…I go look in the boys room, all his stuff is gone, his computer is gone, all her stuff is gone, they are gone, including stranding me because she took our only car. I call her again and again on her cell phone, but no answer. Call her friends…. they know nothing but the cell phone bills show dozens of calls before and after to her network of friends. Dozens of calls from Sveta that night as she packed to run.

I was hysterical…weeping..crying..crying out…panicked , not understanding what happened and why. I later found out that she had gone and closed our joint account at the bank and basically left me broke, broken, stranded without a word from her. I called everyone and they began not answering as they were told not to by Aksana.

Later that week the leasing officed called me saying she wanted off the lease and as the days and weeks progressed I received one notice after another saying she had moved her accounts to Sveta’s husband (the ex-****o attoney office..he was the facilitator of this plan..the money). I am so stupid that I suspected nothing when the Boy asked for bland CDs, but later found he had wiped all information off the other computer in our bedroom that Aksana used to further cover their tracks. And of course, she took every Immigration Document, our all copies of our Marriage Certificate, my birth Certificate and documents I don’t even know about because I let her pay the bills (I gave her the money for). The list is so long, I don’t even know how deep, dark, well planned and for how long “they” were preparing for this. She even took my jewelry along with all the jewelry I bought for her.

I called and called and wrote emails, begging her to talk to me. Yes I cried and am still crying. For my birthday on August 18th I got a birthday card from Aksana that only said “Good Luck” Aksana, Yan. Then in my mail box there was a note that said:
Quit calling me
Quit calling my friends
Quit calling my family
I am filing for divorce
My representative will be in contact with you
Aksana

Then on the day after my birthday, the was a knock on the door, I was served with divorce papers stating she wanted a divorce for Irreconcilable Differences, that she wanted Spousal Support, for me to pay her attorney and to pay all her credit cards and for her car. I couldn’t work and thank god for my friends who loaned me money to pay the bills and get another car. I even put money in her account for 3 months from that borrowed money because I didn’t want to believe what everyone was saying and that she was done with me. I wanted to believe I had done something..that it was all my fault and that my precious Aksana would come back to me if I fixed whatever was wrong…whatever I did to make her do this.

Now, 10 months later, I still sleep on the couch because I have nightmares and wake thinking she is there or worse. Yes I weep everyday..I have no choice, I have to get the pain out in order to just breath and yes, I have thought about dying because my life seems over, but I can’t give up, I have a daughter who my death would devastate.

She has never spoken to me since, never answered my many calls to her cell phone or even returned the call from the Priest at the church we went to once. Wouldn’t call my brother back, wouldn’t talk to anyone, especially me and to this day I have no explanation of why she has done this except her actions.

I have heard she and the boy are now living in Laguna Beach with her friend and co-conspirator Sveta, that she is going out and having fun while her Atttorney,,the ex roommate of Sveta’s husband prepares their next attack upon me.

I don’t have the money for an attorney. I am living on borrowed money even now while I try to find my way moment to moment, day to day and make up my mind to live.

I paid document preparer to prepare my Response to her divorce petition where I contested her request of Spousal Support, Attorney Fees and for me to pay her credit cards which are mostly her trips and of course the Jeep she has.

I feel sure she has now killed whatever love she may have had for me enough now that she will proceed to finishing murdering me and our marriage. Yes, I did call BCIS and tell them what happened but they don’t care and won’t until she begins what I expect will be her attempt at benefits, which of course I will be held accountable since I was the Sponsor.

I am being told to Amend my Response quickly. To ask for an Annulment of the marriage based on Fraud, that she married me to get a Green Card, but here is the sickest part, I still love Aksana and yes..the Boy, who I see on My Space dressed like a hoodlum Rapper with a mask on saying United States F--- You. He has even erased any comment that he was once in Riverside, but had come straight from Belarus to Laguna Beach.

I know Sveta is busy introducing her to rich men and Aksana is busy looking for a man to give her everything she wants and I could not give her. Maybe I should take out a life insurance policy and go drown in the pool, as there is no one out there to hear me, let alone help me, but at least God and the few who read this will know what happened to this foolish man who thought he could find happiness with such a woman. Hell, I don’t even have many friends left, since all my friends were her Russian friends who I am now being shown were never my friends…they just ate my food and accepted presents and were part of my life while Aksana was working her way through her plan.

There is no doubt that this that has been done to me is nothing short of murder. That only the same kind of heart that would murder a spouse that they claimed to love, would do what has been done to me. I also see there really is no justice in the world or at least don’t know where to turn for it.

That is my story and it’s not over, Irina, Aksana’s daughter In-Law, as has her mother, all of them and 4 others I know of that each have dumped their husbands before or just after getting their Perm Green cards.

12:55 PM  
Blogger MajKarma said...

I hear much about women being the victims, but I am here to tell you "Men" too are victims and in my case I am the victim of Green Card Marriage Fraud, which is the most horrible experience of my life that has not only destroyed everything I worked to accomplish for almost 4 years, but has it has ripping my heart and soul out, and left me feeling like thrown away piece of trash.

In early Sept 2002 I saw the photo of a beautiful Byelorussian woman I later learned was Widow, on Match.com named Oksana. I sent her a “Wink” and a week later she responded that she was coming here to California soon to visit friends on a B-2 Tourist Visa. I later found out it was not Oksana I was communicating with, but her girlfriend and orchestrator of their plan "Svetlana Karebo aka Svetlana Sax". I was later told that I was one of 20 dates Sveta had arranged Okasna, but that it was Sveta's idea, not hers, that she had a son waiting for her in Belarus where she intended to return.

Anyway, I met then Oksana in early Oct 2002.. I picked her up with flowers in tow at Sveta’s brothers apartment (Sergey Karebo..he works for ESRI, Redlands Ca) took her to dinner and although she spoke next to no English, I was smitten, the moment I touched her hand...I remember the very moment I began to love her. Days and a few weeks went by, we saw each other and talked using the translator on my computer. She told me she loved me, wanted to be with me, to marry me and build a life with me, but I had to make up my mind because otherwise, she had to go with friends to Colorado. I have never had a Visa or been out of the USA and certainly new nothing about the immigration process. All I knew was that I believe God had sent her to me and that after all the loss and hurt in my life, that I was being given a chance to start a new life with a wonderful woman like no other I had ever seen or been with.

She moved in with me in late October 2002 and we began the grueling immigration process…I did all the documents, beginning with getting her Visa extended and in May 2003 we were married. I was not and am not a rich man…money was tight but I managed to start giving her money ($3-400 a month) to send home for her parents, who were taking care of her son while we went through the process of getting her legal and bringing her son her to join us in our new life together. Gifts for friends and family, money to girlfriends in trouble back home, phone bills, clothes, things, going to parties at her friends from Belarus…all this and more and more and more I did for her and while I did complain from time to time because it was all on me and she could not work, I did because I loved her and felt I owed her everything I could do because she had chosen me, to be with me while her son waited for us in Belarus. I was her husband…my life’s blood is hers…even now a part of me feels that.

So time passed and during the 3.3 years that we were married I took her to school to learn English, paid for driving lessons to learn to drive and bought her a car, helped her get her Real Estate License, establish credit in her own name and so many other things that a husband should do for his wife…whatever she wanted and needed, not least of this being doing all the immigration documents, fees and all the things a Sponsor must do to get his wife and her son legal in the USA, including paying for her to go home to visit, even though I went further and further into debt and often felt used and taken advantage of like some kind of mule she was riding up the hill. This was okay, I only complained a little..it is how it is for us men..our women want and need and Must Have..as mine put it and making sure she got what made her happy was more important than my having things like clothes and finishing getting my teeth fixed.. I wanted her to have better and to be proud of me and to be her White Knight. Never doubt me when I say how I grew to love her more and more. It blinded me to her use and abuse…it blinded me to her going to Vegas with her girlfriends and the phone calls that included to Russian men she said were just friends. She said she loved me and would never betray me and I thought everything would get better when her son got here.

So finally in Nov 2005, we got her son approved and she went to get him in December. I spent Christmas alone but felt good knowing my wife and son would soon be with me and we would get on with our lives. They arrived the 1st of January 2006. The boy was shy I thought and this being a new environment with a new home and stepfather, I tried to spoil him and draw him close. He wanted computer, I got it for him, he wanted and IPod, I got it for me..his own room was waiting..I even bought him a really nice bike he rode maybe 10 times. Enrolled him in school and was there as a father should be when another boy stole his IPod and I got it back for him. I have a daughter from a previous marriage..she too was thrilled thinking she would have a brother and I tried taking us to do fun stuff like going to ride Go Carts and Skating and Bowling, but the boy was always distant, would never really join in…he mostly wanted to hid in his room on the compuer..his My Space. But I accepted this and that with time he would and we all would find our way. I didn’t know it then but he knew what his mother was planning.

Summer School came and because there was no bus, I picked him up everyday..him and his new friends. Money was tight but we were making it and I felt everything was going to be alright with time. Yes it bothered me he wouldn’t talk much to me and the last day of Summer School was no different..I thought.

In late June 2006 we went for our 2 year interview at BCIS to remove the conditions to/for her Permanent Green Card. It was a great day, we told each other we loved each other and would stick together through thick or thin and make our lives work. If there was anything wrong, she didn’t say so and certainly said nothing at the interview, which we got through with no problems.. we make a great couple..at least I thought so.

On August 4, 2006, I picked the Boy up from his last day of Summer School, dropped him off and went to work. Later, I came home from work about 8:30pm. Aksana (we changed her name from Oksana to Aksana) had dinner ready, we ate and everything seemed to be fine. The boy even ate with us, although he often ate earlier or wanted to eat in his room and watch TV..I had even gotten him the Sports Channels because he’s such a sports fan.

Aksana did seem in a hurry to get done with dinner..I told her, hold on Honey, I am not done yet. Anyway, we finished, she did the dishes and said, let’s go to bed and watch a movie. I had been having a serious tooth ache and between the pain pills and being tired from work, it sounded like a good idea. I don’t remember what we watched, I fell asleep within minutes.

Then about 2am I woke up to see she was up. I asked “What’s wrong honey..said, I have a stomache ache..I asked do you want me to get something for you..my tooth hurts too and I will get us both something..she said no and I layed back down. A few moments later she was their on the edge of the bed with a glass of water…she said here. And told me they ware sleeping pills to help me sleep. I am not sure where she got them, I suspect Sveta gave them to her to give to me. My last words were “Thank you baby for being so sweet to me” and I fell back to sleep.

In the morning I woke, she was not there but I didn’t think anything of it until I went in the living room and saw stuff from our SUV on the floor..an SUV she talked me into buying a few months before and which I traded our car in for. We put it in her name to further establish her credit..I thought.

Anyway, suddenly I am calling out Aksana..Aksana…I go look in the boys room, all his stuff is gone, his computer is gone, all her stuff is gone, they are gone, including stranding me because she took our only car. I call her again and again on her cell phone, but no answer. Call her friends…. they know nothing but the cell phone bills show dozens of calls before and after to her network of friends. Dozens of calls from Sveta that night as she packed to run.

I was hysterical…weeping..crying..crying out…panicked , not understanding what happened and why. I later found out that she had gone and closed our joint account at the bank and basically left me broke, broken, stranded without a word from her. I called everyone and they began not answering as they were told not to by Aksana.

Later that week the leasing officed called me saying she wanted off the lease and as the days and weeks progressed I received one notice after another saying she had moved her accounts to Sveta’s husband (the ex-****o attoney office..he was the facilitator of this plan..the money). I am so stupid that I suspected nothing when the Boy asked for bland CDs, but later found he had wiped all information off the other computer in our bedroom that Aksana used to further cover their tracks. And of course, she took every Immigration Document, our all copies of our Marriage Certificate, my birth Certificate and documents I don’t even know about because I let her pay the bills (I gave her the money for). The list is so long, I don’t even know how deep, dark, well planned and for how long “they” were preparing for this. She even took my jewelry along with all the jewelry I bought for her.

I called and called and wrote emails, begging her to talk to me. Yes I cried and am still crying. For my birthday on August 18th I got a birthday card from Aksana that only said “Good Luck” Aksana, Yan. Then in my mail box there was a note that said:
Quit calling me
Quit calling my friends
Quit calling my family
I am filing for divorce
My representative will be in contact with you
Aksana

Then on the day after my birthday, the was a knock on the door, I was served with divorce papers stating she wanted a divorce for Irreconcilable Differences, that she wanted Spousal Support, for me to pay her attorney and to pay all her credit cards and for her car. I couldn’t work and thank god for my friends who loaned me money to pay the bills and get another car. I even put money in her account for 3 months from that borrowed money because I didn’t want to believe what everyone was saying and that she was done with me. I wanted to believe I had done something..that it was all my fault and that my precious Aksana would come back to me if I fixed whatever was wrong…whatever I did to make her do this.

Now, 10 months later, I still sleep on the couch because I have nightmares and wake thinking she is there or worse. Yes I weep everyday..I have no choice, I have to get the pain out in order to just breath and yes, I have thought about dying because my life seems over, but I can’t give up, I have a daughter who my death would devastate.

She has never spoken to me since, never answered my many calls to her cell phone or even returned the call from the Priest at the church we went to once. Wouldn’t call my brother back, wouldn’t talk to anyone, especially me and to this day I have no explanation of why she has done this except her actions.

I have heard she and the boy are now living in Laguna Beach with her friend and co-conspirator Sveta, that she is going out and having fun while her Atttorney,,the ex roommate of Sveta’s husband prepares their next attack upon me.

I don’t have the money for an attorney. I am living on borrowed money even now while I try to find my way moment to moment, day to day and make up my mind to live.

I paid document preparer to prepare my Response to her divorce petition where I contested her request of Spousal Support, Attorney Fees and for me to pay her credit cards which are mostly her trips and of course the Jeep she has.

I feel sure she has now killed whatever love she may have had for me enough now that she will proceed to finishing murdering me and our marriage. Yes, I did call BCIS and tell them what happened but they don’t care and won’t until she begins what I expect will be her attempt at benefits, which of course I will be held accountable since I was the Sponsor.

I am being told to Amend my Response quickly. To ask for an Annulment of the marriage based on Fraud, that she married me to get a Green Card, but here is the sickest part, I still love Aksana and yes..the Boy, who I see on My Space dressed like a hoodlum Rapper with a mask on saying United States F--- You. He has even erased any comment that he was once in Riverside, but had come straight from Belarus to Laguna Beach.

I know Sveta is busy introducing her to rich men and Aksana is busy looking for a man to give her everything she wants and I could not give her. Maybe I should take out a life insurance policy and go drown in the pool, as there is no one out there to hear me, let alone help me, but at least God and the few who read this will know what happened to this foolish man who thought he could find happiness with such a woman. Hell, I don’t even have many friends left, since all my friends were her Russian friends who I am now being shown were never my friends…they just ate my food and accepted presents and were part of my life while Aksana was working her way through her plan.

There is no doubt that this that has been done to me is nothing short of murder. That only the same kind of heart that would murder a spouse that they claimed to love, would do what has been done to me. I also see there really is no justice in the world or at least don’t know where to turn for it.

That is my story and it’s not over, Irina, Aksana’s daughter In-Law, as has her mother, all of them and 4 others I know of that each have dumped their husbands before or just after getting their Perm Green cards.

12:56 PM  
Blogger GB said...

Several years ago I was involved in a bitter divorce. The woman I married was from a foreign country. We were married a year and a half. She was in the U.S. six mouths before I filed for divorce.

Little did I realize I was one of thousands of American men who find out to late they where used as a tool to gain entry into the United States. This woman stole every legal and financial document from my home. I don’t even have a copy of my marriage certificate or the wedding video I paid for.

I foolishly give her over $11.000 dollar’s in her home country, equivalent to ten years wages and a car valued at $12.000. Not including the legal fees bringing her to the U.S.

She did a very effective job convincing everyone she was the poor victim of an abusive husband. Despite the fact I filed for divorce without prejudice and refused the advice of my attorney to file a Protective order.

Claiming spousal abuse affects a woman’s visa status. A foreign woman can make any claim, even if false to the Immigration service and a man has no right to know or defend himself from these claims unless a criminal charge is filed.

Did my Local, State and National government come to my aid, quite the opposite! In a tape recorded conversation with a Kansas City representative of Senator Brownback I was told “Maybe when she gets married again she’ll like this one better”. I was told by the immigration service in Wichita “we hear the same story everyday, men lose there homes, kids and business” there’s nothing we can do about it.

I was thrown out of my home on a trumped up Protective order. I was not allowed by the judge to be present or represented at the hearing to challenge the Protective order because she claimed she was afraid of me. Yet, she returned to my home three times, two times with her 11 year old daughter prior to this hearing. Would you allow your child around someone so dangerous?

These temporary orders where kept in place for a year after the divorce without any input from my side. The only testimony permitted at this hearing was detrimental to me, in the case of my ex-wife a literal vested interest in making me sound as negative as possible. To be denied the right to defend yourself. Absolutely Un-American.

There are very valid laws protecting foreign women in the United States, I support those laws. The problem is you have unscrupulous attorneys who specialize in distorting these well meaning laws to protect people who may not be covered under there intent.

Protective orders are being handed out like dime store candy. I wonder how may of these orders are legitimate or a ploy by unscrupulous divorce attorneys looking to make a dollar off someone else’s tragedy, or an act of revenge by a spouse.

I suggest any American citizen get good legal advice and sign a pre-nuptial agreement before marrying a foreigner. If this person begins to ask for large amounts of money, drop the relationship, it can mean only one thing.

I received shabby treatment in the 27th judicial district by Richard Rome and Timothy Chambers. Mr. Rome could have been sitting at the table with my ex-wife and attorney rather then on the bench.

I was lied about by judge Rome and my ex-spouses attorney. At the age of 50 this was my first marriage and divorce. I have found the divorce system in Kansas is one of lies and judicial prejudice. Something needs to be done to clean this system up! Divorce is such a money maker for attorneys I don’t think this will happen.

I suggest under Kansas Marriage Law to a foreign national the marriage must last three years before any claim can be made, with the exception of child support. I think this could help citizens like me who find themselves unwittingly snared in a legal and finical nightmare. I also think in civil matters the appeal process is too expensive and timely, local judges have too much power and not enough oversight.

My attorney expressed disgust at the unfair way I was treated. Something needs to be done about the divorce system in Kansas and to protect American citizens from very sophisticated foreigners who know how to work the system.

5:38 PM  
Blogger Russ DoGG said...

I hte to say this,

but its obvious.

Why are you guys such chumps that you can't tell what these mail order brides are up to? You must be blind. Can't get any pussy atall, so you are so desperate so as to believe these women?

What is going on upstairs? The lack of reasoning ability or critical thinking skills is your real problem- and you will get victimized over and over again until you correct that.

Or if you are so unattractive mail order brides your only opion? Lose some weightor get on a treadmill. It makes no sense to me..

3:05 PM  
Blogger Russ DoGG said...

prenuptial agreements are a must! Legal advice is money well spent you chumps cheapskates!

3:07 PM  
Blogger brokendreams said...

I am begging your help with a serious immigration issue.
I too am a vitim of marriage fraud.
I meet a man of Shaddi.com and Indian marriage site from Saudi Arabia. His name is Shahid Halwani. We communicated for 5 years on and off.
On Aug of last year he came to the USA on a F1 visa to Ohio State University. He was taking one set of English classes for a period of 1 semester, which did seem a bit odd since he spoke perfect English. None the less we met and started to hang out and eventually date. He wanted to get married right away but I was more reluctant. He pressed and pressed saying if we did not get married by the end of November he would have to go back to Saudi Arabia and we would never see each other again. I relented and we were married Nov 26th 2007.
He returned to Ohio State University to finish his finals and was done by the second week of December. He officially moved in the second weekend of January after going on a Florida trip with his "class" over Christmas break. Instantly things went badly. I entered marriage counseling for myself in late Feb early March. I had found out he was chatting and going on trips to meet other women he had met off Shaddi.com. He also said “If we could just make it together for 2 years” meaning until he got his green card. He then stared to look for work in Texas, Utah and other far away places I had no intention to move to. I knew then he had only married me for the green card and I went to file divorce to with a local attorney. While I was in his office Shahid filed for divorce from me doing the “do it yourself divorce kit” from the library. This was April 10th, 2008.
I dropped him off in Cincinnati, Ohio on April 11th which ended with him abusing me and breaking the keys off in the ignition of my Lexus. I had to place a 911 call and be advised by the police of that area on what to do.
On April 14th I wrote a withdrawal letter letting the INS know I was going to be divorced from Shahid and that I was no longer going through with the I-120 and the I-485 immigration paperwork. This meant he was out of status but had I not I could have been finically responsible for him per my attorney. Ewe had not even had our first immigration interview yet. I was not going to commit fraud for him.
On June 16th at 8:45am we were officially divorced. Right after we got out of the court he went and filed a complaint against me for child abuse of my only son as pay back for his immigration paperwork being denied due to my withdrawal. I am an excellent mother and this is his vicious way of getting back at me. He used to tell me I’d be sorry if I didn’t go through with this immigration paperwork. Please is there anything I can do to prevent him from marrying another woman just to be a citizen and placing my son and me in danger living in fear every day of our lives? How and where can I report all this to?
He is now trying to switch his status back to a F1 student to stay in the USA. He has no means of support and is living off his Saudi friends there in Columbus Ohio currently. He will eventually try and marry another unsuspecting woman to gain legal status here in the US.
Protect us from people with a fraud agenda.

5:31 AM  
Blogger brokendreams said...

I am begging your help with a serious immigration issue.
I too am a vitim of marriage fraud.

I meet a man of Shaddi.com and Indian marriage site from Saudi Arabia. His name is Shahid Halwani. We communicated for 5 years on and off.

On Aug of last year he came to the USA on a F1 visa to Ohio State University. He was taking one set of English classes for a period of 1 semester, which did seem a bit odd since he spoke perfect English. None the less we met and started to hang out and eventually date. He wanted to get married right away but I was more reluctant. He pressed and pressed saying if we did not get married by the end of November he would have to go back to Saudi Arabia and we would never see each other again. I relented and we were married Nov 26th 2007.
He returned to Ohio State University to finish his finals and was done by the second week of December. He officially moved in the second weekend of January after going on a Florida trip with his "class" over Christmas break. Instantly things went badly. I entered marriage counseling for myself in late Feb early March. I had found out he was chatting and going on trips to meet other women he had met off Shaddi.com. He also said “If we could just make it together for 2 years” meaning until he got his green card. He then stared to look for work in Texas, Utah and other far away places I had no intention to move to. I knew then he had only married me for the green card and I went to file divorce to with a local attorney. While I was in his office Shahid filed for divorce from me doing the “do it yourself divorce kit” from the library. This was April 10th, 2008.
I dropped him off in Cincinnati, Ohio on April 11th which ended with him abusing me and breaking the keys off in the ignition of my Lexus. I had to place a 911 call and be advised by the police of that area on what to do.
On April 14th I wrote a withdrawal letter letting the INS know I was going to be divorced from Shahid and that I was no longer going through with the I-120 and the I-485 immigration paperwork. This meant he was out of status but had I not I could have been finically responsible for him per my attorney. Ewe had not even had our first immigration interview yet. I was not going to commit fraud for him.
On June 16th at 8:45am we were officially divorced. Right after we got out of the court he went and filed a complaint against me for child abuse of my only son as pay back for his immigration paperwork being denied due to my withdrawal. I am an excellent mother and this is his vicious way of getting back at me. He used to tell me I’d be sorry if I didn’t go through with this immigration paperwork. Please is there anything I can do to prevent him from marrying another woman just to be a citizen and placing my son and me in danger living in fear every day of our lives? How and where can I report all this to?
He is now trying to switch his status back to a F1 student to stay in the USA. He has no means of support and is living off his Saudi friends there in Columbus Ohio currently. He will eventually try and marry another unsuspecting woman to gain legal status here in the US.
Protect us from people with a fraud agenda.

5:36 AM  
Blogger connedbyillegal said...

I was recently the victim of a fraudulent marriage. Once I figured out what she was trying to do with me, it was too late. I had applied for nulificaiton but isntead got dissolution. Unfortunately our own laws encourage this type of illegal activities. The Asian immigrants know our laws very well and they know how to exploit those laws greatly to their advantage. Now I’m left with dissolution instead of nulification, and she is exploiting this to her advantage. What can I do? She arrived here as tourist conned me into marriage once she got the marriage she refused to live with me and or follow me. All this time prior to marriage and now she hass been working illegally and driving out a license. How can I contest this situation? It’s hard and they know it so they abuse us, our country and our laws.

11:51 AM  
Blogger Robin & Brad said...

I am SO sorry to hear of everyone who has been a victim of marriage fraud, and my prayers are with all of you. However; through your experience and pain you ARE helping others who could be the next victim. I had been talking to a man from Algeria that proclaimed his love for me over and over again. The typical, "You are my oxygen, I can't live without you"..."I Love You"..."I am yours forever" was just a few of the words he used to try and convince me of his love. Mind you, I am an attractive 51 year old Christian women who is well adjusted with an adult son. He only 38 and muslim, never married with no children. Ha! BIG RED FLAG! Thank the Lord and this website and for all the valuable information that has been provided, it has helped me immensely. Thank You again!

3:01 PM  
Blogger ive said...

My boyfriend marry in january a woman for money, and a couple of days I just found out about this the new wife called me from his cellphone because I was calling him a lot the night before to find out where he was, he was picking up the woman at the airport who does not live here in the US she came from Venezuela. I confront his parents and they confess that their son marry this woman for money. I did my research and I have her full name and where they marry but not the exact date. My boyfriend has a credit card where he gets money that someone make deposits of money for him as a payment for this and this card is not under his name. Do you think ICE will look into it if I report it?

6:16 AM  
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10:58 PM  
Blogger DontTakeItSoSeriously said...

Maybe there wouldn't be as much marriage fraud in the U.S. if there were other paths to "legalization" in place. How would you feel if you were unfortunate enough to born in a war-torn country, unable to pursue many of your dreams or ambitions and prohibited from living what we have come to know as a "normal" life? I can't fault someone for doing what it takes to survive until I've seen life from his vantage point. And I would expect the same courtesy extended to myself (as I'm sure you would, as well.) The last time I checked, America was the land of the free and the home of the brave. Frankly, your descriptions make our country sound more enslaved than free and yourself more cowardly than brave.

8:49 PM  

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